Puzzled in your marriage…

I HEAR CHAINS BREAKING…
 
Here is another key to unlock the chains. Think for a moment about a pile of keys in a drawer. We wouldn’t know right away which key goes to what lock. Keys and Locks are like Pieces of a Puzzle. Just like with keys, not all pieces fit in all places. They may all look alike because they are all pieces, but actually they are somewhat different in that they have different configurations or shapes just like our marriages.
 
1) SHAPES of our marriage
 
·Outies and Innies – Personality differences “outgoing” or “reserved”
·Figurals – pieces that have recognizable differences. These may be more common like financial issues, career struggles, differences in childrearing, extended family interference, religious beliefs, ideas of lovemaking do’s and dont’s, housing differences, transportation lacks, attitudes, hidden agendas, unhealthy friendships, drugs and/ or alcohol problems, etc…
·Interlocking – the pieces fit together so that they do not come apart easily (when we are in agreement)
·Lifted tab – An area in which the surface or the layers of hurts, fears, frustrations have caused separation. This is often caused by carelessness in the marriage union.
·Color Cut – Bi-racial struggles
·Stripcut – Refers to a puzzle which has been cut (or a seemingly severed relationship)
·Pushfit – Refers to a puzzle which has seeming non-interlocking pieces but when forced in they don’t
fit at all.
 
2) People who work on a puzzle have all types of PERSONALITIES (ex. of attacks in relation to our marriage)
 
·piece thief or hoarder- is a person who
a) puts a piece in an area being worked on by another person in the marriage (aka Jezebel) OR
b) hoards all the pieces on one side of the marriage (selfish) OR
c) hides pieces he or she KNOWS other persons is looking for (this person could be angry, resentful, unkind, uncaring)
·busy body – a person who tries many pieces in many spots very rapidly, all over the puzzle, in such a way as to prevent anyone else from being able to place their pieces (STANDER/OW/OM)
·squiggledy piece – a piece with an otherwise hard-to-describe shape (marriage issues seemingly unlike any other)
ETC… Either way, these pieces can be new, slightly worn, or damaged.
 
 
3) WHEN YOU CAN’T QUITE SOLVE THE PUZZLE…Our lives are like that of a puzzle. When we try forcing the pieces into the puzzle often times we find they don’t fit. Either, the edges don’t match, the shape looks right but just doesn’t fit or it’s the wrong piece altogether.
Fitting-Together-the-Puzzle-Pieces-of-Marriage
 
4) UNLOCKING THE CHAINS… It has been my experience in life that when we back away from the puzzle and allow God (the designer/ creator of the masterpiece) to gently place the pieces, they all go perfectly into their rightful place and then once again become a beautiful work of HIS ARTISTRY.
 
5) WHEN WE REST, GOD WORKS… While he is clearing the board, piece by piece, we sit back and study God (His Word), we root Him on (in Praise, Worship & Adoration); Knowing He Designed The Marriage and He Knows How To Put It Back Together.
 
In this, we become #UNCHNED

 

Lessons learned the hard way…

Don’t you think that if God said it, He knows what He is talking about? He knows that doing things in the opposite order brings disappointments, as well as added questions, concerns and/ or confusion.

LESSON #1 – Regarding Fornication

1 Corinthians 7:1-3 (AMP) Now as to the matters of which you wrote: It is good (beneficial, advantageous) for a man not to touch a woman [outside marriage]. But because of [the temptation to participate in] sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. The husband must fulfill his [marital] duty to his wife [with good will and kindness], and likewise the wife to her husband.

1 CORIN 7vs1-3

When we go having intercourse with a boyfriend/ girlfriend or fiance/ finacee, we open the door to the enemy. We are walking out of line with God’s best for our lives. From experience, this has caused me great pain at times in my life. Regardless what they may say, eventually the fun ends and/ or either parent may not be willing to give up their freedoms even for their child (aka selfishness). The reality of raising a child and responsibility that comes along with raising a child, are not always accepted by both parties. This can be hard enough at times for married couples, so why wouldn’t it be hard for individuals seeking to do life out of Gods perfect will?

God gives the order that is best for us… his children; to keep us from future hurts, disappointments, anger, resentment and frustrations.

#UNCHNED ~ In His Love, A-M

Basics…

CHAIN BREAKER BASICS…

ANYTIME YOU NEED A DO OVER, YOU GO BACK TO THE BASICS… THE BEGINNING. WHERE DID “I” GO WRONG? WHERE DID OUR MARRIAGE GO WRONG? WHERE HAS OUR COUNTRY GONE WRONG???

                        IN SELF-EFFORT

WHEN WE THOUGHT THAT WE KNEW WHAT “WE” WERE DOING, LEAVING THE SIDE OF OUR CREATOR, TO DO THINGS “OUR” WAY.

THE BASICS START IN REPENTANCE, RECEIVING HIS FORGIVENESS, PRAYING, LISTENING FOR HIS STILL SMALL VOICE AND OBEYING HIS DIRECTION, READING HIS WRITTEN WORD (which is GODs opinion/ way on every matter we face), PRAISING GOD FOR WHO HE IS (a good loving Father), SINGING SONGS OF WORSHIP OUT OF YOUR SPIRIT, BEING IN RELATIONSHIP WITH ABBA FATHER, HIS SON JESUS & HOLY SPIRIT!!!

Unchned Child of God

Choices… good or bad have consequences.

I HEAR CHAINS BREAKING…
You have a right to make your own choices. Although it may be easy, to blame your current situation… on your childhood… on something someone else did or didn’t do… on something someone said or didn’t say… IS NOT WISDOM.  What transpired a moment ago is the past.
1) Whether you had the life you thought you deserved.
2) Whether you didn’t get to do things other kids did.
3) Whether you think something is fair or not.
4) Whether you did/ didn’t have the same options at the time as another.
5) Whether your parent(s) were alcohol or drug addicts.
6) Whether your parent(s) were always incarcerated or were sickly.
7) Whether your parent(s) never talked about God or took you to church.
8) Whether your parent(s) couldn’t afford to give you the same lifestyle as your friends.
Living in the past, is allowing the enemy to hold you hostage, in turn keeping you from moving forward. If your childhood was so bad, then make better choices than your parent(s) did or those that caused you pain. Choose to move forward and do better for yourself. Our past does not define us, our choices in the past don’t either. Your present is before you, so make choices that allow you the freedom of your past.
Definition of “CHOICE” (CHois) noun – an act of selecting or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities.
  1. “the choice between good and evil”
The best choice I ever made was CHOOSING WHOM I WOULD SERVE!!!
Jesus Christ and Holy Spirit in relationship with the Father God. 😉
#UNCHNED In His Love, A-M
Joshua 24vs14&15

Marriage – the Bride of Christ

I HEAR CHAINS BREAKING…

Marriage is a Ministry in and of itself. Your calling or ordination in marriage is to be fulfilled to the end, til death do us part. First to God, second to your spouse, third to your children. This journey of restoration is about getting the body of your marriage healthy again. As you work from the top (the head – where all the wrong ways of thinking come), on your relationship with Papa God, Jesus & Holy Spirit… the heart will be changed and the fruit of that union will begin to flow into the rest of your being or life… your spouse, family, friends, health, career, finances, secondary ministries, etc…

“This is why God selected and ordained us to be His own inheritance through our union with Christ! Before we were even born, He gave us our destiny; that we would fulfill the plan of God who always accomplishes every purpose and plan in His Heart.” (Ephesians 1:11 TPT)

#UNCHNED In Thee, A-M

Gods order in family

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How do I hear Chains Breaking…

I won’t give my testimony again since I have given that several times already (it can be found by typing #UNCHNED in Google search). Instead, I will share with each of you why I post “I HEAR CHAINS BREAKING” and call each of us “CHAIN BREAKERS”. I have known, of the Lord, since I was an infant. I was raised in “church” and grew out of the building, wanting more than what the body at that time was giving me. I wanted to know this life giver Jesus in all His fullness. I wanted to be like the ones I believed were so Holy and Righteous. In time I found out they were just as broken as I. I learned that “church” is a hospital for the hurting, sinners just like myself. A central place to go and learn of His ways and the purpose for my life, to fellowship with others and to learn from one another. Eventually, that wasn’t enough either. I wanted more Jesus, more Holy Spirit, more God in my life. So I took to the streets to share the live changing message of Christ; where I had been in all my sin and where only He could have pulled me out. I was attempting to love on His people. It wasn’t until the ones in my life that I loved started looking at me like I was crazy, did I start to question myself and my motive. I turned inward and I took MY eyes off of Jesus and started to look around and the attacks grew from there. My old ways resurfaced, my old ways of thinking, my old habits, the things GOD had removed were once again before me. Where did I go wrong? How was I again facing a divorce? How would I get out of this pit and back into His Palace? I kept hearing in my spirit… It’s simple! I found myself arguing with God, “What is so simple?’ Where am I missing it?” Steadily my life was falling apart. Not only was I using again, but there was a much deeper wound I hadn’t taken care of before. I had unknowingly used my faith, as a crutch, trying to keep the deliverance and healing he had already given me. I was trying to cover up my past pain again with substances, by numbing myself to my husband, my children, my extended family and most importantly, ME. I couldn’t help anyone if I couldn’t allow God to first help me. I didn’t just go out and just start using illegal drugs. It came in more subtle ways. I started listening to my natural doctors more than the GREAT PHYSICIAN, who had suffered, died, was buried and rose again for my sickness/ disease and sin. I started listening to the voices in my head that were telling me I had a right to feel this way (justification). I even listened to other “Christians” who told me that I was right, they would use scriptures to help me justify myself. I don’t think they realized what they were saying. I believe they thought they were helping. What I needed could not be found by looking left or right, but could only be found in once again surrendering (total trust) it all to THEE. In this process, I learned the most important word spoken to me from the throne. IT’S NOT ABOUT ME!!! It isn’t about me; what I can accomplish for him, what I can say to another, what I want out of life, what I deserve for being a good wife for so long, a good mother, friend or anything else. IT’S ALL ABOUT JESUS and us being totally surrendered to HIS LOVE, HIS FAITH, HIS WAYS. IT’S ALL ABOUT HOLY SPIRIT… trusting and yielding to His Still Small Voice. My life was never about ME. I was NOT placed here to have “my” needs meet, but to accomplish & fulfill GODs PURPOSE AND PLAN for my life. Once I realized that Key Role, my life has become UNCHAINED. UNCHAINED from my past. UNCHAINED from the present. UNCHAINED from the future. My desire is for you, my fellow brothers and sisters, to be UNCHAINED too. UNCHAINED from this world and it’s systems. UNCHAINED from the hurts our choices and others choices have inflicted on us. UNCHAINED to love GOD undeniably, unhindered and unwavering, by what Jesus accomplished at the cross, by the power of Holy Spirit. With God, all things are possible to them that believe. I call you CHAIN BREAKERS because the same spirit that is inside of me, also lives within you, HIS HOLY SPIRIT. As you walk with God, trusting Him, by His Spirit, I can just hear (perceive) your chains breaking.

#UNCHNED In Total Surrender
In His Love, A-M <{{{><

Ephesians 2:4-10 (TPT) 4 But God still loved us with such great love. He is so rich in compassion and mercy. 5 Even when we were dead and doomed in our many sins, he united us into the very life of Christ and saved us by his wonderful grace! 6 He raised us up with Christ the exalted One, and we ascended with him into the glorious perfection and authority of the heavenly realm, for we are now joined as one with Christ! 7 Throughout the coming ages we will be the visible display of the infinite, limitless riches of his grace and kindness, which was showered upon us in Jesus Christ. 8 For it was only through this wonderful grace that we believed in him. Nothing we did could ever earn this salvation, not even our faith, for it was the gracious gift from God that brought us to Christ! 9 So no one will ever be able to boast, for salvation is never a reward for good words or human striving.

2013 Unchned Memory…

Thankful for this time in my life, for even though it was a time of sadness, struggle and fears… it was “my time” to be RESTORED back to the Father, Son & Holy Spirit.

RESTORATION comes once we are RESTORED back to our first love, our creator. Don’t rush the process draw close to him, by feeding on His word, talk with Him constantly, listen to His still small voice, sing praises to your King, worship Him in Spirit.

If you will completely surrender yourself to God it will bring with it a new ability to trust God fully and you willl gain peace to walk everyday knowing God is always there by your side. Total Restoration is a process that brings true freedom from this world’s systems, were you too can be #UNCHNED In His Presence.

In His Love, A-M <{{{><
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The Key to Standing on your Promise…

I HEAR CHAINS BREAKING…

REGARDING YOUR STAND – Often times you’ve heard others say… Having done all stand!!! But what is standing? What does it look like? In Ephesians 6:10-20 Paul gives us the example. I love & respect how Paul was literally bound in chains as he gave us the #KEY TO BEING #UNCHNED in verse 20 (his sacrifice to the brethren for Jesus)!!!

YOU can STAND & REST (ACTIVE)… OR…
YOU can STAND & DO IT ALL (INACTIVE)???

***Kinda sounds backwards but stay with me…

ACTIVE STAND (IMMOVABLE): #Patiently waiting on God, #Communicating (aka prayer) your hopes and fears & allowing Him to speak to you through His Still Small Voice (communication is both ways), #Seeking after & #Leaning into the heart of God by #Pressing into the word of God (reading the word), #Praising God in the midst of confusion, to what seems like no visible movement or answers and #Worshiping Him for what He has done, is doing and the answer to come (total restoration) AND speaking the answer, NOT the problem. Seeking after #PEACE.

INACTIVE STAND (CHASING): #Wringing your fist and hands, #Analysing every detail, Constantly #thinking on the problem more than God, Seeking others #opinions (when we already know what God spoke to us – which would lines up with His word), Seeking after anything that causes #CONFUSION.
The Armor of God (Amplified Bible)

10 In conclusion, be strong in the Lord [draw your strength from Him and be empowered through your union with Him] and in the power of His [boundless] might. 11 Put on the full armor of God [for His precepts are like the splendid armor of a heavily-armed soldier], so that you may be able to [successfully] stand up against all the schemes and the strategies and the deceits of the devil. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood [contending only with physical opponents], but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this [present] darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly (supernatural) places. 13 Therefore, put on the complete armor of God, so that you will be able to [successfully] resist and stand your ground in the evil day [of danger], and having done everything [that the crisis demands], to stand #firm [in your place, fully prepared, immovable, victorious]. 14 So stand firm and hold your ground, having [b]tightened the wide band of truth (personal integrity, moral courage) around your waist and having put on the breastplate of righteousness (an upright heart), 15 and having[c]strapped on your feet the gospel of peace in preparation [to face the enemy with firm-footed stability and the readiness produced by the good news]. 16 Above all, lift up the [protective] [d]shield of faith with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God.

18 With all prayer and petition pray [with specific requests] at all times [on every occasion and in every season] in the Spirit, and with this in view, stay alert with all perseverance and petition [interceding in prayer] for all [e]God’s people. 19 And pray for me, that words may be given to me when I open my mouth, to proclaim boldly the mystery of the good news [of salvation], 20 for which I am an ambassador in #chains. And pray that in proclaiming it I may speak boldly and courageously, as I should.

I AM PRAYING FOR EVERY STANDER TO “REST” (in their stand) #UNCHNEDInHisLove, A-M

My Journey of becoming #Unchned…

HIS-STORY  ‪#‎UNCHNED‬

I believe it is our nominal service to share our testimonies with one another and to be a transparent witness to one another. I share where I was and where God through his Son, Jesus, by the power of the Holy Spirit, has brought me & my family in a very short time frame.

Reading a memory post from 10/18/2012 and thinking back over the last 3 years. I see the hand of God was upon me even though I had turned and failed Him. His love for us is AMAZING and REAL!!! He has consistently turned my situation around, as I have submitted each area to him.

He has ‪#‎Restored‬ me. I have been ‪#‎Delivered‬ from crack-cocaine and 15 prescribed meds. ‪#‎Healed‬ multiple illnesses, including my mind.‪#‎HeRestored‬ my calling, home and transportation. My ‪#‎Marriage‬‪#‎Restoration‬ came forth. AND HE continues to ‪#‎RESTORE‬ family relationships. HE IS WILLING, BUT YOU MUST SURRENDER IT ALL TO JESUS!!!

Today, I reminded of Romans 3:23 – For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. If you are caught in a sin, don’t allow the enemy to twist the fact that Gods grace and mercy is not His co-signing on our sin. He is gracious and merciful, but tomorrow is not promised. Don’t wait another day. Surrender to his still small voice. HE LOVES YOU!!! BE #UNCHNED IN THEE!!

Ann Margaret
October 18, 2012
I need your help…as many of you may already know, I was an 8 year Crack Cocaine addict, until May of 2005. I relapsed once at the 7-month mark and was arrested for Possession of Crack Cocaine, as a first offender. I got back on track and stayed clean until Oct of 2011. In this, I have devastated my husband, my family and have temporarily lost custody of my children until I can prove myself, via a DFACS case plan. I am not wanting anyone to feel sorry for me. I have done this to myself. I am willing though to pay the price, in which, because of my backsliding, my husband left our home in March, and since I have been a housewife all along, I had put myself in a position, whereas, I cried out to God for his help. I needed provision for April’s rent, and on April 19th it had appeared as if God met the need. I received a check in my ministry mailbox made out for $850.00, it was dated April 17th and had been signed. The only thing missing was pay to the order of, so excited that God had made away, I called my children and praised God in this miracle. I have received money a time or two for ministry in the past. I honestly thought this was God. If I hadn’t been using, I would have heard when the Holy Spirit nudged me to take a look at the front of the envelope, that the PO Box number was 1985, not 2085. But just as in the Garden of Eden, I was tempted and heard the enemy say, “Wow”, isn’t that great God made sure the postmaster got it delivered to the correct PO Box. Well, I was had. I soon found out a month later that check was not for me. Thankfully Father God delivered me once again from the stronghold of cocaine, on May 7, 2012. But of course, I still had to pay for what I had done. So on May 16th, I police officer drove down my street, looking for Ann-Margaret Wilson, and I quickly told him that was me. As I began to speak with him, it dawned on me that I may have been implemented in a crime, but he advised I needed to come down to the police station and answer some questions, so I went swiftly to the station. In my mind, I couldn’t think of anything I had done to get into trouble, I had been keeping my life free from breaking the law for almost 6 years and the check I had cashed with my landlord, never even occurred to me that it wasn’t meant for me. I was arrested for Felony Theft-by-Taking and spent the next 92 days incarcerated at the Hall County Detention Center, Gainesville, GA. Well, from the time I got to the jail I cried out to God saying, “LORD, you know I don’t steal intentionally, I am not a theft, but I did write my name on the check and I did turn it over and sign it and I need your help with this. I am asking that you reduce my sentence or have it done away with altogether, and so when I went to court, my Daddy in Heaven, took care of this and it was reduced to Misdemeanor Theft-by-Taking. Although, I have paid for my crime to society, I now have to be overseen by a probation officer for the proceeding 12 months. I am fine with all of this because I know, in the end of all of this God Almighty, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirt, are with me, and will never forsake me. I apologize for offending any of you with the fact that I backslid, but when I started looking at the fact that my husband was never home, always on the road working, I began to miss him and his companionship dearly. This was an adjustment for our family that was not intended to last for the past 4.5 years, and when I got sad or upset I would just pray and trust God for a local job for my husband, but I can only guess that I had gotten weary in well doing, and started to look at the problem rather than the problem solver, and that was my first mistake. I ended up going back to the one thing, I never thought I would because God had brought me so far and had blessed me beyond measure with an Angel, a gift from the hands of my God, and I failed him. I can only pray and believe that God will heal his broken heart and return to the wife of his youth, as is written in…

Malachi 2:13-16
13 Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands.
14 You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
15 Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.[d] So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. 16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,”[e] says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.

I am asking you that pray, to please lift up my husband & I and our Marriage. I know that God heals the brokenhearted. I also know that Jesus died for the sick and infirmed, and my marriage is sick right now, and I am in anguish over this whole matter. I love my husband, and I know he loves me, and he is so hurt by the relapse, that he doesn’t want to return. BUT, I know God has restored marriages when only one of the spouses was standing with God for restoration. I know a three-fold cord is not easily broken and I know that what God has joined together his word says let no (man, woman, parent, friend, pastor, judge, etc…) one put asunder.

I am also asking that you pray for God to open a door for a job and a place to stay while I get on my feet. I now have theft staring me in the face, but I know God can open doors that no man can open. I realize I have made bad choices and this is not going to come easy. But, I need a place to live, and I need to be able to support my children if they are to come home. Fortunately, my oldest daughter and her husband, are taking care of the children for the time being. I do have to pay my probation, or I can be locked again, for a sanction. I am trying to be the woman of God that he intends for me to be, but I need your prayers.

Giving my testimony to my friends, is part of my healing process, and I pray that this knowledge does not cause you to Judge me. I leave you with Philippians 3:13&14 – 13 Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

Thank you for your continued prayers, in the name of Jesus!

Child of the Most High GOD,
Ann Margaret

I Gave You Another - Lawyer

This picture was taken after we were reconciled, but before all the children were returned to my care. What it speaks is that God is our Advocate & our Judge and that if you will surrender it all to him he will ‘TURN IT AROUND’, to bless you according to Genesis 50:20&21.

Genesis 50 v 21 & 21

IN HIS LOVE, A-M <{{{><

 

Word of Encouragement for Someone Today…

Psalm 22:3 – Tells us that God inhabits the praises of his people. The definition of “inhabit” is to live inside of, so this scripture means that when we send praises up to God, he comes to meet us and his presence fills us. When I was having a hard time and thought “I CAN’T DO THIS ANYMORE, IT’S TOO MUCH AND MY HUSBAND DOESN’T EVEN CARE”, I would stop and Praise God. Praise God on this side of your mountain, like you already have your… marriage restored. If you will wait on the Holy Spirit to enter in, it will refresh you and you will be strengthened by HIS presence to make it another minute, another hour, another day. Know that when we speak his word over our marriage that HIS words bring forth life and often times our spouse is self-seeking and justifying themselves with their words. NUGGET: GODs Word Wins and Goes Forth to Deliver. <{{{>< #‎UNCHNED